Lavender Shortbread could make your loved ones smile , why not try it today?

LAVENDER IS ONE OF THE MOST NOSTALGIC FRAGRANCES, bringing scenes of childhood vividly to the mind: high summer days that last for ever, lavender bushes shimmering against the blue sky, the bees blundering in and out among the flowers, stirring up the intense, sweet sensation. Lavender FieldBut lavender is much more than just pretty & calming. It is one of the most powerful remedies in the plant world. Avid listeners of The Archers will have heard Camilla, Duchess of Cornwall raving about the lavender shortbread that were baked for her by Ian, the chef at Grey Gables. By using simple lavender sugar, that can be bought at major supermarkets  you can make beautiful heart shaped lavender shortbreads and bring a bit of nostalgia and sweetness to someone you care about. If you cant find lavender sugar you can even make it, see top tips.

Let’s adopt People friendly communities

Thanks to Connecting Mackay for image

Thanks to Connecting Mackay for image

It seems that every day there is another tweet or news notification about a town, city or community becoming ‘dementia friendly’. Alzheimer’s Society has set out their five year strategy which includes the movement towards dementia friendly living; encouraging communities to take greater steps towards empowering people with dementia; enabling them to feel more confident and more included in society. A powerful step in recognising that it’s not necessarily the condition or diagnosis that creates a barrier, but society itself that does this. And this social model, this school of thought, should surely apply across society and for all those with different needs and diagnoses. It’s wonderful that Alzheimer’s Society are raising awareness of the need to improve inclusion of a particular group within our community and with such apparent fervent uptake from people within these communities. But this should be the starting point to becoming a more inclusive society generally. “If only we could put ourselves in the shoes of others to see how we would react” wrote John Howard Griffin (2009, cited in Krznaric, 2014, p.76) “then we might become aware of the injustice of discrimination and the tragic inhumanity of every kind of prejudice”.

In the UK alone there are an estimated 1.2 million people who use wheelchairs (taken from 2000 NHS purchasing supply, so likely to be much higher); 1.86 million people with sight loss (2012); 9 million people who are hard of hearing (RNID, English Federation of Disability Sport, 2015) and 985,000 people with a learning disability (Key facts about disability, 2010). Further to this 1 in 4 British adults experience at least one diagnosable mental health problem in any one year (Mental Health Foundation, 2015) Our society – on a large scale and on an individual basis – needs to become more aware, more understanding, more accommodating and much more inclusive. In the UK at least, we have wealth to make this a reality and not just in financial terms. We have the skill set and training of leading technologists, architects, health professionals, teachers and professors. We have a wealth of charities and advocates for specific illnesses, diseases and disabilities and, most importantly, we have a wealth of people who are living with those illnesses, diseases and disabilities who we need to listen to and include in moving towards the creation of not just Dementia Friendly Communities, but People Friendly Communities.

English Federation of Disability Sport (2015) Facts and Statistics Available at ( [Accessed 08/01/2015].

Griffin, JH (2009) (cited in Krznaric, 2014) Black Like Me. London: Souvenir Press, 2009

Krznaric, R (2014) Empathy: Why it Matters and How to Get It. New York: Penguin Random House Company, 2014

A new way of living?

Cohousing communities

Loneliness and community living

The astonishingly high rates of loneliness in this country, particularly amongst our older age population have been prevalent in the media of late. Shocking statistics note that lacking social connections is as great a cause of early death as smoking 15 cigarettes a day (Monbiot, 2014); twice as deadly as obesity and can increase the chance of premature death by 14% in the most extreme of cases (Age UK, 2014). At the same time it is believed that loneliness amongst younger people – those 18-34 years old – is thought to be an even greater problem, as services don’t exist to cater to this age group in the same way they do for children or, although being increasingly threatened with closure, for older people. Last year the office for National Statistics found Britain to be the loneliness capital of Europe (Gil, 2014). Humans are social beings which is evidenced by the presence of their large neocortex, a part of the brain involved in higher social cognition, which makes us ‘hard-wired’ for interacting with others (Vrticka, 2013). So, when the doors are closed on our streets; the 6” fences erected around our homes; people absorbed in the world of mobile phones and other technology and the individual and individualism taking over from the sense of community and interdependency, the risk of losing what it means to be social, increases, with a loss of community and loneliness in its wake.

It’s true that although there has been a slight resurgence in community life, with the street party craze, the increasing popularity of allotment ownership (there are year+ waiting lists in London) and farmer’s markets, the focus in our society is almost entirely on the individual. In addition to this, people are; working longer hours, often with less pay; struggling to afford to buy houses, often forcing them out of their preferred location and splitting families; and struggling to manage extended work hours and rising childcare costs. Maybe it’s partly because nobody has the time or energy to think of anyone else as they’re all too busy trying to keep on top of their own lives, that there has been a decline in neighbourliness, community living and general friendliness. It’s not that we don’t care about people, with Britain leading the way amongst other developed nations in giving to worthwhile causes, but it doesn’t currently feel like ‘we’re all in this together’, even though most of us are sharing the burden in some capacity.

‘The old and young must unite to solve the problems facing Brittan’ Stephen Burke has confidently stated (2014), despite some of the media efforts to damage these relationships within communities and between generations. The latest focus has honed in on older people taking up much needed multiple bedroom properties when first time buyers are struggling to purchase their first homes. However a new wave of living is gaining popularity within Europe which is addressing these fractions and rebuilding that sense of true community living. Multigenerational housing, Intergenerational living, community living and cohousing projects are all possible tonics to these problems.

A scheme in the Netherlands enables students to live rent free in a retirement home in exchange for 30 hours of their time to be given to some of the older residents in the home. In Germany, the introduction of Mehrgenerationenhaus (the multigenerational house) in 2003, sees older people, young children and adults coming together in centres which cater for all. The older attendees volunteer to read stories to the children and offer child minding services to the exhausted parents. Teenagers offer to teach the older attendees technology skills whilst all benefit from company. And closer to home, The Threshold Cohousing community in Dorset which consists of 14 dwellings half of which are affordable rent and shared ownership. They are based around a community market garden and common house and living is based on community and green principles.

Perhaps the major difficulties with these types of schemes is each individual being able to adopt and adapt to a true community spirit away from the independent lifestyles that they are more familiar with. Of course this way of living will not suit all and although architects and town planners would be wise to consider options such as this for future housing developments, choice should still be offered to all. However, the focus on more community style living can be framed as the rebuilding of family-like links which can contribute greatly to fighting isolation, loneliness and vulnerability whist also respecting the private life of each individual.

Age UK (2014) Local Age UKs awarded £21m in funding from the Big Lottery Fund to combat loneliness Available from [22nd December 2014]

Burke, Stephen (2014) Old and young people must unite to solve the problems facing Britain. Available from: [22nd December 2014]

Gill, Natalie (2014) Loneliness: a silent plague that is hurting young people most. Available from: [23rd December 2014]

Monbiot, G (2014) The age of loneliness is killing us Available from: [23rd December 2014]

Vrticka, Pascal (2013) Evolution of the Social Brain’ in humans. What are the benefits and costs of belonging to a social species? Available from: [23rd December 2014]

How does your river flow?


One older lady once said to me, on finding herself in a psychiatric ward following the “breakdown” she’d experienced; “I can just about deal with stiff joints and bad backs, but when people start questioning my mind and I start believing I’m losing that too, then I feel lost and very scared”. Losing control of our bodies, in whichever form this may take, can be scary, embarrassing and hugely anxiety provoking, but when the choice of what to do about that is then also taken away from us, these emotions multiply and dent our self-belief and confidence even further.

Is that the main fear of old age – of losing control of our bodies with an instinct of self-preservation? Of having to give up an element of our independence to be ‘looked after’? Of losing our youth and everything that, in direct contrast to ageing, it represents?

Attending a recent lecture given by a celebrity of the occupational therapy world, Michael Iwama spoke about the relationship between rivers and life; the beginnings at the mouth of our river; the meandering flow of the course of life; the richness of our riverbed and the depth and strength of our banks – shaping, holding and supporting our life’s flow, and the deposits of sediment or rocks which, just like problems in life will create blockages and impede flow. This metaphor demonstrates so clearly the journey we all take in life and the problems or blockages that we come up against. However it also illustrates quite powerfully our ability to keep going, despite the blockages that we might come up against, or the rocks in the river that impede the flow. There will always be a hole to get through, irrespective of how small this space might be. The river must keep flowing.

He further uses driftwood as a metaphor for assets and liabilities in our life which represent the talents and skills that we have or the dislikes and characteristics we possess. This driftwood could, on meeting sediment deposits in the river, either block it up further or else collide with the deposits and knock them out of the way, thus freeing up the blockage. We all have strengths as well as needs and, when meeting a blockage in our river or a problem in our life, it is worth considering how to use our driftwood to help dislodge the problem. We all have a narrative and the older we are, the longer the narrative, the longer the river, the greater the courage and strength to keep flowing.

If we have an older relative or friend who has reached a blockage in their river, whether that be through physical ill-health, cognitive ill-health, mental ill-health or emotional ill-health, take some time with them to discover their narrative and their stock of driftwood; their likes, skills, talents and motivations. Unless you have Power of Attorney and permission to make decisions for that person, include them in your discussions and give them the information they need to take part in any decision making. Having open and honest discussions may provide you all with a solution for freeing up the flow of life, for making life more comfortable and smooth. There will always be a hole to get through, but everyone needs to be involved to find it and plan the best course of action to get through it, without getting lost, confused and scared in the process.

Who cares?

The subject of remaining in your own home can often be a point of tension within families – balancing that much wanted need and desire of older people to remain independent whilst not worrying family members to distraction.

We believe that communication is key and, in particular, listening to each other’s perspective to get to a solution that is right for everyone.

We are not saying that the discussion will be easy – but it might just make things easier to deal with – something we have tried to illustrate in the infographic below (click on the link for a higher quality version).

Who cares? Infographic

Who cares? Infographic

Safety vs Happiness?


Your right to peace of mind vs your parent’s right to independence

One of the dilemma’s that we face with ageing parents is balancing the need for them to be safe against their desire to be in their own home. Living in your own home isn’t just about wanting to stay put and refusing to accept change, it’s about hanging on to that all important independence.
So, how do we get the balance right between giving our parents the independence they desire and is key to their wellbeing whilst feeling reassured that they are safe and well.

Pippa Kelly in her blog post titled Risk vs Silent Harms explores the pursuit of adventure in people living with dementia to get away from “a downward spiral of low energy, low self-esteem and loneliness”.

“A Department of Health report encouragingly titled, “Nothing Ventured, Nothing Gained,” explores the role risk plays, and should be allowed to have, in the lives of those living with dementia.

“One person’s idea of unacceptable risk is another’s raison d’etre – take away the element of risk in someone’s life and you take away part of his or her self.”
One of the Canary team has recently had to face into this dilemma with a close relative who presented an eloquent, spirited and articulate argument as to exactly why she wanted to stay in her own home. The focus of the argument was about her right to happiness and acceptance that, yes she might fall, but she took responsibility for that and would accept the consequences.
Each situation is different and must be treated as such. However, surely a person’s right to happiness must not be ignored; and that happiness if often acquired through being able to make their own decisions, their own choices and remaining in control of their own life for as long as possible.

Reassuring families


An Occupational Therapist who has been using Canary has summed it up perfectly:

“As an occupational therapist, I look for ways to empower clients and to regain or maintain their independence wherever I can. Canary is much more than just a monitoring system, as it can allow elderly people to stay in their own home; reassure caring friends and family that their loved one is mobile, comfortable and functioning; and ensure that the most appropriate level of care is given by services, which can be targeted at the specific areas of need. Risk is an inevitable part of life, but this system can help elderly people live much more safely in their own homes, with it.”

Great times together


With a bank holiday and half term coming up, Grandparents and Grandchildren may have the pleasure of spending some long sunny (we can hope) days together.

Here is our list of ‘Top 10 fun things to do together’ to give you some ideas:

1. Make a scrapbook of things you and the family like to do

2. Get out all the old and new photos and create a family tree

3. Teach each other something new: chess, knitting, Candy Crush…….

4. Make lemonade, sit in a favourite part of the garden….and talk and listen

5. Plant flowers or vegetables in the garden or in a window box

6. Make paper planes and see whose goes the furthest

7. Make puppets from socks and put on a show

8. Go on a nature walk and find bugs, birds, fossils, butterflies. Take binoculars and a camera

9. Do some baking together then have a picnic

10. Make a time capsule together and bury it in the garden


We’d love to hear your ideas too

Have fun and create some great memories!


Photo courtesy of The Age Action Alliance